By Dan Pool
Over the past couple of weeks, I have run into people (some online) who were irrationally mad. Here are some instances of the anger that seems to occur daily.
• The volunteers taking up donations for the hurricane relief near the chamber of commerce offices apparently rubbed someone the wrong way. Even though they are giving their time to help others, they were blasted after we posted the story on our Progress Facebook as their efforts didn’t suit someone online.
• Discussing a situation with some school officials they related how they came under fire for a decision before any details were released. People were literally complaining about something they had not heard the first detail about. Some of those on the attack didn’t even have kids affected by the change.
• Another Progress employee saw someone berating a business owner over cookie prices.
• The clearest example: I was talking with a linemen stopping traffic while contractors unloaded two power poles. It took about 10 minutes to move the poles, a fairly efficient operation considering their size and weight. But during this time, a waiting motorist began blowing their horn, then whipped around and roared off down the other lane. The lineman handling traffic said that reaction was not uncommon, nor the worst he was subjected to last week (one person accused him of restoring all her neighbors’ power, but intentionally leaving hers off).
I would love to ask that motorist where he was in such a rush to get to? Did he have a patient on an operating table? Was he needed to advise on a Korean missile launch? Is there any situation around here so urgent you can’t wait ten minutes for guys to move very large objects needed to restore power?
In discussions with people on the receiving ends, they commented that people “are just angry.” It does feel like everywhere you go someone is mad about something.
Angry Birds is a fun game; angry humans are ugly to behold.
There were a couple of different ideas expressed about why everyone is so on edge all the time.
One, it ties back to social media, where it seems 85 percent of the people post about what has made them angry. The wording on social media may also contribute to the mood - think about how often you see words like “destroyed” used to describe a successful argument.
A second opinion on the widespread anger is everyone is stretched too thin on all fronts, all the time. The public fury we witness is the proverbial straw breaking the camel’s back. The ranting person could very well add, “I have just had all I can take” which might explain their tirade and bring them some sympathy. Whether it was health issues, family strife, financial concerns or poor romances, when their electricity was cut, it became a breaking point.
I took these thoughts to a mental health professional to get his learned, but unofficial, opinion. Obviously he had not talked to any of the people firsthand. His opinion wasn’t that people were too angry/ stretched-to-thin. In fact it was the opposite, that modern people have gotten too accustomed to convenience coupled with inflated sense of self-importance plus, “being great big babies,” which leads to temper-tantrums.
When you can order literally anything your heart desires online and it shows up in 48 hours, when you have drive-thrus for everything from dry-cleaning to pharmacies, when you take care of all bill paying with a few clicks of your phone, then, by gosh, you aren’t going to tolerate anything (even a hurricane) interrupting YOUR power service or a school not making YOUR opinion a top priority.
Whatever the reason for the constant outrage in the culture, it’s clearly a mad, mad, mad world out there and that’s sad.